It used to be, ‘all about me’, well, at least way more than it is now.  Now, it’s mostly about them.  What they want to eat, what he decides, where she wants to go…  For me, this fine because I make the time and space for me.  Even if there are no immediate pulls in the household, there are times when one can lose their voice and fall into the endless abyss of pleasing others, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.   Perhaps it’s graciousness that gets out-of-control.  Before you know it, it’s causing you to be literally stopped at a 4-way stop sign for five minutes trying to convince the other driver go first!

I realize that if I do not speak for myself, expressing what I want and what I want to do, no one else will.  Not because they don’t care, it’s because they don’t know what is inside my head.  Sometimes this may cause a argument but as a result, my voice is heard and my needs are met.  I’ve found myself in a pool of complaint because there was so much doing for everyone else, I no longer did for me and if I wanted to, I felt guilty or encountered resistance.  I realized in my pity-party that there was me to blame.  I let this happen.  No one else knew what I needed or wanted.   I let the tide take me out.  Well, I swam back in, made it to shore and was wrapped in gifts of support and encouragement.  If you lose yourself and your voice, fight to get it back.   At least, ask for what you need. Whether it’s a day, a weekend, an idea, a workshop, a daily ritual or even that fish dish you love or that movie you want to watch…express yourself.  Maybe it will take some pounding to get through a few thick heads but in the end, you will have you and they will have a happier you.